"A parent’s self esteem has everything to do with what their child's self esteem is. A lot of times when we were talking about weight loss, the parents own anxiety about their own weight is the same in the child," said life coach Lisa Cavallaro.

"I do struggle with it and try not to say things or look in the mirror. You know, I look horrible in this... I try not to say comments about how I look," said Tammy Haarman.

"Even just the word fat or say ya know, I'm gonna get fat from a certain food. A child picks up on that so quickly it can affect the rest of their lives," said Monique Ballet-O’Malley.

Life coach Lisa Cavallaro counsels families on how to live a life free from dieting. She says if a parent obsesses about his or her weight, their child will also. The key is to find happiness.

"When you get to a place where you're happy and you are not feeling all the negative emotions, than you don't want to even stuff them with food. The weight loss just comes naturally because you’re happy in your life," Cavallaro said.

"Fat is the F word in our house. It's the worse word that I think you can say in front of your children. I mean, I think struggling with weight is one of the biggest challenges as a woman you can face," Haarman said.

Parents who struggle with their weight is one issue, but when a child who is over weight child, is another.

So if you want to help your child lose weight, how do you it? Cavallaro says, don't focus on the weight or a diet, be there emotionally for them. Help them explore interests that bring them happiness.

"Be curious with your child, be open minded and let them explore it and when they doing what they really like and enjoying it they're going to feel better about themselves," said Cavallaro.

Cavallaro offers on-line support by using worksheets. Parents need to model life long healthy eating and exercise habits and concentrate on feelings, not body weight.

"The more anxious you are about your child's weight, the more you're going to pass that anxiety on to the kids," said Cavallaro.

"Try to keep it positive focus on the positive energy even when I try to avoid it, I think I count, I take a few seconds for myself and try to remember how important it is not to influence them negatively when it comes to weight and health," said Haarman.